5 Ways to Make New Friends When You Move

When I moved to Oregon from Oklahoma 2 years ago, I didn’t realize how hard it would be making new friends. Living in Oklahoma, I already had a friend base, plus I was involved in activities where making new friends was easier than if I wasn’t otherwise. So when I moved, I was forced to get out of my comfort zone and put myself out there in a way I’ve never had to before.


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To give some context, I moved to a small Oregon Coast town where the population was around 8,000 and the average age was 55. And surprisingly, I knew one person who lived in that small town (thank goodness) so that helped with the transition. But not only is making new friends as an adult hard, making new friends in a small retirement town when you’re a 30-something girl is even harder. But I was determined to make friends and build what community I could in my new state.


Before I get to the list, there is one thing that must be understood. Sometimes, you have to go first. Sometimes, you have to be the one to throw out that awkward question or start the conversation. And this is coming from the girl who is actually really shy in new situations with new people. This part was painfully hard at times, but the more I practiced it, the easier it became. Putting ourselves out there to possibly get rejected or hurt is the not-so-fun part of the making new friends process, but it’s 100% necessary.


Now that we’ve addressed the awkwardness, let’s get to 5 ideas I personally used to help make new friends when I moved.


This list isn’t a hard rule list, but some suggestions and things that I have worked for me in meeting new people, which is the first step in making new friends.

1. Go to a yoga class or sign up for a gym.

Personally, talking to people in the gym isn’t my style, but I know a lot of people who have become friends at the gym. I tend to open up more in a yoga class. I think the more intimate setting and close proximity to one another promote and encourage communication and connection with others around you.


2. Meet people at or through work.

This one may seem obvious, but I have found some people like to keep work at work, and personal life at home, which is 100% okay. But think outside the box – outside the office. For my job in Lincoln City, I inspected vacation homes for safety and other items, and in doing that, I met with property management companies all the time. We would be in the same house for about an hour, sometimes making small talk during the inspection. Because of these small conversations, I met several new friends.

One friend, who actually ended up being a blogger, connected me with many other bloggers who have since become friends. All because at her inspection for her adorable new beach house, I spotted a Day Designer planner and I started a meaningless conversation asking her about it. After that, at the time, insignificant comment about a planner, it created a connection – that initial and important connection – that sparked a new friendship and countless other future connections and friendships.


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3. Join a professional group.

Ask around at work or local shops if there is a professional group in the area. I joined the Young Professionals group in Lincoln City, as well as the one in Newberg. These groups are not only great for meeting new people (and potentially making new friends), but they are great for networking. Building a network creates opportunities for new jobs and new ventures. They create those important connections, personally and professionally.


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4. Volunteer or be a part of a club.

Not only does this fulfill the need to connect with other humans, but volunteering can help others in need (human or animal 🙂) and it’s been proven to be a mood booster and good for your mental health. Look for single opportunities to volunteer or join a club that meets and volunteers regularly as a group.


5. Check social media for social events, cultural center events, trivia nights, book clubs, church events, etc.

This one may seem a little out there, but with social media these days, there are so many ways to find events and meetings happening in your local area. Try searching on Facebook for events happening near you. I have found a ton of festivals, shop openings, trivia nights, and meetings searching this way. Will you be going to some (if not all of them at first) of these events solo? Yes. But that’s where the courage of putting yourself out there comes into play. If simply showing up at an event is the most you can do the first couple of times, then do that. That’s a huge win! After a few of these wins, you’ll begin to feel more confident to connect with others.


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Whether you’ve recently moved or find yourself in a life transition causing a shift in your friendships, hopefully this list provided you with some ideas on how to make new friends. As an adult, making new friends can be hard, and it’s definitely risky. But the reward of making a new friend far outweighs the risk of possible rejection, feeling isolated and alone.


And as always, if you ever need an internet friend, I’m here and always willing to listen!


These are just a few ideas that have worked for me. Have I missed any? What are some ways that you’ve made new friends? Leave them in the comments below for others to read and use as well!



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    Socia Love-Thurman
    October 1, 2018 at 12:51 pm

    I definitely needed this. I have lived in Seattle for 5 years and have just found myself feeling more isolated and lonely lately. It’s even more prominent with the holidays just around the corner and may also have a lot to do with the clouds and rain setting in. I’m so happy you put yourself out there and I hope I can find some ways to do that too over the next few months. P.S. If you ever head towards Seattle I’m here (and Judy too)! I keep trying to meet up with her.

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    October 2, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    Great ideas! I wouldn’t have thought of the young professionals group!

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    Catherine @ To & Fro Fam
    October 3, 2018 at 12:32 am

    I’m terrible at meeting people at the gym or studio, but I find professional or trade groups are ideal for branching out. Meeting people there is less awkward because you already have a lot in common and things to talk about.

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    Erin @ Platings and Pairings
    October 3, 2018 at 7:37 am

    There are so many great tips here for meeting friends in a new location. It’s definitely tough to get out there, especially if you work from home, but you have some amazing suggestions!

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    Jenni LeBaron
    October 3, 2018 at 12:21 pm

    These are fantastic ideas. I find that the older I get, the harder it is to make new friends. You’re right though, sometimes you just have to make the awkward first move to put yourself out there.

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    Renee | The Good Hearted Woman
    October 3, 2018 at 12:49 pm

    Once you are out of school, it can be tough meeting new friends, and it seems the older you get, the harder it becomes. Volunteering has always been a good source of lasting friendships for me: I met my best friend of 20 years while volunteering.

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    Marlynn | Urban Bliss Life
    October 3, 2018 at 3:54 pm

    You live in one of our favorite places on the coast! 🙂 It can be so tricky making new friends as an adult, and I agree that sometimes you have to be the one to go first and make the friend move. Love all of your suggestions. I really believe new friends can be found everywhere, we just have to breathe in the courage to put ourselves out there! Glad you have found some friends and know you have some in Portland if you’re ever in town!

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    October 4, 2018 at 2:43 pm

    Awe man, I’ve moved so many times in the last 20 years! And all different states. Had to start over and get new friends each time. And working from home makes it even more difficult! Once i moved across the country while pregnant (with twins!). The best thing I did was join a Mother’s if Multiples group. I met some lifelong friends there. And most recently, moving back to Oregon, I’ve found Nextdoor has been surprisingly useful in meeting people in the community and going to neighborhood and community events. And also volunteering at my kids school to meet other parents.

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    Martha Brady
    October 5, 2018 at 7:41 am

    another resource for meeting people that i have loved with my moves has been getting involved in a local church. that may come under the category of clubs for you, i’m not sure. it has always been a place where we have met people of all ages and made close friends rather quickly. in the years when we had kids, there were many natural and easy ways to make connections as well, in the community. now that we are retired, it is more difficult, so your recommendations have helped for sure danielle:) thanks fo much for your helpful post:)

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